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What Makes a Man Run Away

An insider view into the actual reasons men run away from relationships

What Makes a Man Run Away

Why did he leave me? I did everything right. It is almost impossible to count the number of times we’ve heard women wondering just what went wrong with their relationship. We got to the bottom of it, asking men what the ‘last straw’ for them often is.

IF SHE’S CLINGY

It’s normal to want to spend time with your partner, but one of the most common responses we received from men was that they can’t handle a clingy woman. It’s a fine line between wanting quality time with your significant other and clinging on for dear life. “My last relationship would expect me to spend so much time with her every day, that I ended up not seeing my friends after a while,” Ahmed, 25, tells ELLE.

Give your partner his own personal space, ladies; even we don’t like it when our partners hang onto us too much. A healthy, balanced relationship is ultimately the goal.

IF SHE’S CONTROLLING

He is not your son. Oftentimes, women mistake their boyfriends and husbands for an extension of their never-ending list of responsibilities. And while this behavior might come out of a place of love, it’s more often than not suffocating. Your partner is an adult, and no one appreciates being told what to do. “I need my own personal space to be me; I can’t feel like she’s trying to change who I am,” Youssef, 28, says.

IF SHE CAN’T GET ALONG WITH HIS FAMILY

Especially if your partner is a keeper, he will want you to get along with his family. It’s not a competition, ladies. Having a good relationship with your significant other’s family will make your relationship easier. “I learned this the hard way; my first girlfriend’s mother didn’t like me. It made it impossible for us to be together,” Omar, 42, tells us, “I knew then that it was crucial for my future wife to get along with my family, just as it was for me to get along with hers.”

IF SHE’S IN THE HABIT OF LYING

No one likes a liar, and while sometimes the little white lies might seem harmless, they could end up bridging a rift in your relationship. “I’d rather you tell me you forgot something important about me, but not lie,” Ali, 40, shares. “I feel like it shakes a pivotal aspect of the relationship. If I can’t trust you, then what’s the point?”

IF SHE’S MESSY

Men don’t like a messy gal! One of the most repeated answers we got was that men cannot tolerate a messy partner. “My ex-fiancee was an actual mess. I’m more on the organized side, and it drove me crazy. I couldn’t imagine living with her,” Khaled, 27, shares.

IF SHE’S ANGRY ALL THE TIME

No one likes unjustified anger. A man might feel compelled to distance himself or run away from a relationship where his partner is constantly angry for several reasons. Unjustified anger creates a hostile environment, making communication impossible. Moreover, the emotional toll of constantly navigating someone else’s anger can be draining and detrimental to mental well-being. Without resolution, this cycle of negativity becomes unsustainable, prompting the man to seek a healthier and more fulfilling dynamic elsewhere.

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