The mother-in-law relationship is often portrayed in popular culture as fraught with tension and conflict. Mothers, by their very nature, are protective of their kids. Giving their daughter/son away to some stranger just because they’re in love with will always come at a cost. Like don’t expect to steal both the guy’s and his mother’s hearts. However, we know your goal in life was never winning your mother-in-law over. All you want is a happy and quiet marriage; things that can’t happen when you’re at war with your mother-in-law. Whether you’re newly married or have been part of the family for years, here are some tips to help you foster a strong bond with your mother-in-law.
JUST BE NICE
Remember, you’re not in a competition. Just be nice to her. Treat her with kindness, courtesy, and consideration. If you have any plans in mind to give her an attitude, please don’t. Respect and kindness are always the key to win people on your side.
SHOW GENUINE INTEREST
Take the time to get to know your mother-in-law as an individual. Ask her about her interests, hobbies, and life experiences. Showing genuine curiosity about her life can demonstrate that you value her as a person and are interested in forming a meaningful connection.
FIND MIDDLE GROUND
Identify shared interests or activities that you and your mother-in-law can enjoy together. Whether it’s cooking, gardening, or watching movies, finding common ground can provide opportunities for bonding and creating positive memories.
DON’T OUTCAST HER
Make an effort to include your mother-in-law in family gatherings, celebrations, and outings. Inviting her to participate in special occasions and events can help strengthen family bonds and foster a sense of belonging.
AGAIN, DON’T GIVE YOUR MOTHER-IN-LAW AN ATTITUDE
Approach your relationship with your mother-in-law with a positive attitude and a willingness to see the best in each other. Focus on building bridges rather than dwelling on past conflicts or differences, and strive to create a supportive and loving environment for your family.
SET BOUNDARIES
Healthy boundaries are essential for maintaining harmony in any relationship. Yes, we said “be friends with your mother-in-law.” However, be clear about your own boundaries and respectful of hers as well.
Remember, every relationship has its challenges, but with time, effort, and a willingness to work together, you can cultivate a meaningful and fulfilling connection with your mother-in-law.
