We all know the thrill of a new relationship. You’ve met someone you think is cute and you’ve made it past the intricate dance of asking each other out. The first date was a success, they didn’t ick you out, perfect! What now?
Often we are so caught up in trying to get the person we’re seeing to like us that we rarely think it through once they actually do! So here are 4 things to avoid doing when you’re seeing someone new.
KEEP THE EX-TALK TO A MINIMAL
Have you ever been on a date and had the person you were seeing spend the entirety of the evening speaking about their ex? Horrible experience. While it’s good to be honest with your partner-to-be, it’s also good to know how much info is too much info. Some things can be reserved for later on in your relationship when it’s time to discuss them.
DON’T BE TOO CLINGY
This one’s obvious, but so many of us always miss it! With the excitement of a new relationship, it’s easy to lose sight of how much is too much. One of the easiest ways to get someone to run for the hills is to come off too clingy from the get-go. Again, the middle ground is always good.
IT’S COOL TO CARE
Actually, nothing is less cool than acting like you don’t care! The age of feigned nonchalance and slow text replies is so beyond over. The person you’re seeing wants to know that you’re as interested as they are. If they’re in it for a healthy, prosperous relationship, they will also want to make it clear that they’re invested in what you’re building.
BE YOURSELF, AND ALL THAT GOOD STUFF
Now what is the point of someone liking you if they only like a version of you that you made up? It’s easy to get self-conscious when you’re seeing someone new, but don’t let that lead you down a path of acting out of character. In the end, you’re gonna get tired of the act and they’re gonna see through it.
